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The SSTTIM Method
Sensual Somatic Tantric Trauma-Informed Massage for Bisxual and Gay Men
The SSTTIM Method is a groundbreaking system of erotic healing that combines deep massage, guided meditation, tantric principles, and trauma-informed aftercare into a powerful two-hour ritual.
This book introduces a new paradigm: erotic energy as medicine, climax as transformation, and intimacy as sacred healing. Written for bisexual and gay men — but relevant for anyone who has carried shame or trauma in their body.
Epilogue: A Blessing for Your Body
If you have read this far, it means something in you is ready. Ready to release old stories. Ready to let your body breathe again. Ready...
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Sep 21 min read
Chapter 22: A New Paradigm of Erotic Healing — Why SSTTIM Matters for Bisexual and Gay Men
For too long, bisexual and gay men have been told our desires are dangerous, our bodies untrustworthy, and our pleasure shameful. Trauma...
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Chapter 21: Stories of Healing — Examples of Transformation
Healing is never abstract. It lives in real bodies, real histories, and real experiences of release. To understand the SSTTIM Method, it...
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Chapter 20: Long-Term Transformation — Rewriting Trauma Through Repetition
One session can be powerful. It can shift energy, release pain, or awaken pleasure in ways you never thought possible. But true...
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Chapter 19: Living the Method — From Sessions to Lifestyle
The SSTTIM Method is more than a two-hour ritual. It is a philosophy of living — a way of relating to your body, your breath, your erotic...
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Chapter 18: Aftercare and Grounding — Holding the Body After Release
In most sexual encounters, orgasm is treated as the end — a quick collapse, distraction, or even separation. But in the SSTTIM Method,...
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Chapter 16: Touch Techniques — Massage, Erotic Stimulation, and Energetic Overlay
The body speaks through touch. In the SSTTIM Method, touch is not random or mechanical — it is conscious, intentional, and layered. Every...
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Chapter 15: The 120-Minute Session — A Walkthrough of All Four Parts
The SSTTIM Method is designed as a 120-minute journey — four distinct movements, each 30 minutes long. Together, they create a complete...
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Chapter 14: Preparing the Space — Ritual, Safety, and the Power of Scent
In the SSTTIM Method, healing begins long before the first touch. The body responds not only to hands and breath but also to the...
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Chapter 13: The Role of Climax — Erotic Release as Healing, Not Just Orgasm
In most sexual encounters, climax is treated as the finish line — the inevitable end point that everything rushes toward. But in the...
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Chapter 12: Tantra for the Modern Man — Breath, Energy, and Sacred Stimulation
Tantra is often misunderstood. For some, the word conjures images of exotic rituals or endless sex marathons. But at its heart, tantra is...
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Chapter 11: The Erotic Map of Men — Pleasure Pathways for Bisexual and Gay Men
Every man carries an erotic map — a landscape of zones where touch awakens pleasure, memory, and release. Some of these pathways are...
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Chapter 10: Somatic Awareness — Listening to the Body’s Yes and No
Part III: The Erotic Body
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Chapter 9: Common Client Experiences
Every man’s journey with the SSTTIM Meditation is unique, but there are patterns that emerge again and again. Because this practice...
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Chapter 8: Why It Works
The SSTTIM Meditation may feel simple, even dreamlike. But beneath its ease lies a powerful combination of neuroscience, somatic therapy,...
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Chapter 1 - Origin Story: Why I Had to Develop the SSTTIM Method
I did not set out to become a healer. I created this method because I had no other choice. When I was four years old, my father was...
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Preface: Why Opening My Marriage Released Tension (Even Without Full-On Sex)
When people hear the phrase “open marriage,” most assume it’s about chasing more sex. But here’s the surprising truth from my own life:...
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Introduction To The SSTTIM Method
My Journey into Erotic Healing For most of my life, I carried pain in silence — pain in my body, pain in my heart, pain I didn’t even...
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What Is The SSTTIM Method?
The SSTTIM Method is more than a massage. It is a trauma-informed system of erotic healing designed specifically for bisexual and gay...
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Book Overview: The SSTTIM Method
Sensual Somatic Tantric Trauma-Informed Massage for Bisexual and Gay Men The SSTTIM Method is a groundbreaking system of erotic healing...
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